My husband and I married one week ago this weekend. We probably won’t know for years what the ceremony and union ultimately signify for us. Immediately, however, we were joined legally. I have the pink, temporary marriage certificate to prove it.
Since noon last Saturday, I have felt both completely different and exactly the same.
We have [...]
Archive for the ‘Traditions’ Category
Legally Bound. Under Law.
Posted in Traditions, relationships, tagged bride, chief justice marshall, gay marriage, Goodridge v. Massachusetts Dept. of Public Health, Groom, jon ladd, jonathan ladd, legal marriage, marriage, wedding on October 18, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Countdown: (10) Why get married?
Posted in Countdown, Traditions, relationships, tagged bride, Groom, marriage, marry, Neark, New Jersey, new jersey wedding, NJ, Paramount theater, sewing blog, the lovely nest on September 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I’ve been thinking a lot about why we are getting married. I do not doubt my desire to be with my fiancé for the rest of our lives or our love for each other. I know that I want to marry him. I know that he wants to marry me.
But why, exactly? What is propelling [...]
Countdown: (11) Where does tradition fit in? Does it?
Posted in Countdown, Traditions, tagged bridal shower, gay marriage, tiara, tradition, wedding, wedding shower, wedding traditions, weddings on September 29, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I will be getting married in a dress that is not white and I am not changing my name.
Are we completely shunning tradition? As a family friend pointed out, I was wore a very shiny tiara at my wedding shower. Indeed, we are picking and choosing what makes sense for us while still laughing along [...]
Countdown: (12) Union / Wedding
Posted in Countdown, Traditions, tagged wedding, gay marriage, union, civil union, choice on September 28, 2009 | 2 Comments »
A family friend asked me about the wording on our invitation. We invited guests to our celebrate our “union,” not our “wedding.” Why?
There are two reasons. First, we would want to wait to get married until all couples have the option to get married legally. However, becoming a legal unit is important to us and [...]
Countdown: (13) Return to MI
Posted in Countdown, Traditions, tagged marriage, single woman, wedding on September 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Less than two weeks before the wedding! I am returning to Michigan today to be with my fiance’, catch up on work and maybe even take a nap. This has been a busy, productive and fun trip. I can’t believe the shower and bachelorette party (and Tiziano Ferro concert) are over already.
Today is the last [...]
Countdown: (17) Memories…
Posted in Countdown, Gifts, Shower, Traditions, tagged bride, bridesmaids, Shower, Shower Gifts, wedding on September 23, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Hands down, my favorite gift at the shower last weekend was a book that the Chief Wonderful Woman, the Wonderful Women as a group, the Mother of the Bride and my fiancé all contributed to. The Chief asked everyone to send her pictures and she put them together in a square, red book (by Shutterfly.)
The [...]
Countdown: (18) Sugar, Spice and Everything Nice
Posted in Cooking, Countdown, Gifts, Traditions, Wedding Cake, tagged bride, bridesmaid presents, cake tasting, chocolate favors, chocolate making, chocolate wedding favors, dj, hotel welcome bags, making chocolate, Michigan, mother of the bride, New Jersey, wedding, wedding cake tasting, wedding favors, welcome bags on September 23, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Today was a sweet, sweet day. It started off with cake tasting at our venue and ended with chocolate making.
The Mother of the Bride and I were each given a plate with four different generous slices of cake. The venue made four cakes total and we took home the rest of the four cakes. I [...]
Countdown: (19) Day after the shower
Posted in Countdown, Shower, Traditions, tagged bridal shower, bridesmaids, ideas for showers, Maid of Honor, mother of the bride, Shower, Shower Favors, Shower Gifts, shower wishing well, wedding shower, wishing well, Wonderful Women of the Wedding on September 21, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I renamed the bridesmaids the “Wonderful Women of the Wedding,” since they are not “maids.” We could simply call these women, “WOW” for short. And that is exactly the word I kept saying during the shower.
The Mother of the Bride, The Chief Wonderful Woman and two other Wonderful Women went above and beyond, as did [...]
Guest Blog: Celia Milton on Chocolate Sharing at Your Wedding
Posted in Ceremony, Cooking, Starting to plan, Traditions, tagged Celia Milton, Chocolate sharing, heartfelt wedding ceremonies, wedding, wedding ceremonies, wedding chocolate, wedding rituals, weddings on September 18, 2009 | 1 Comment »
If you are a regular reader, you know how much I love chocolate. When New Jersey Wedding Ceremony Officiant and Minister Celia Milton suggested that chocolate could be a part of a wedding ceremony, I asked her to share more details. Thanks, Celia, for these great ideas!
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Many couples include unity rituals in their wedding ceremonies [...]
Modern Love in the New York Times: Gay marriage, gender roles and the wife/wives
Posted in In the News, Traditions, relationships, tagged gay marriage, gender, gender roles, judy syfers, Modern love, sara sarasohn, why I want a wife, wife, wives on August 31, 2009 | 6 Comments »
Sunday’s Modern Love article, Once Political, Now Just Practical, by Sara Sarasohn, went beyond the gay marriage debate and dove into the role of a wife (in the context of feminism and gay marriage.) I enjoyed reading her contemporary and personal response to the 1971, Ms. Magazine essay by Judy Syfers, “Why I Want a Wife.”
If you are [...]
